Yes, you deserve to celebrate sobriety milestones. However, it’s understandable if you have hesitations. Many people living sober lives strongly associate celebrations with unhealthy behaviors from the past. It can be helpful to look at a celebration as an opportunity to reflect on how you’ve grown, how thankful you are for support, and how committed you are to continuing in your journey. Let’s take a look at what a positive, well-deserved sobriety celebration can look like.
When Should You Celebrate Sobriety Milestones?
Many people who have moved into sober lives identify one pivotal date as their “sober birthday.” Your “sober birthday” doesn’t have to be the date when you physically became sober. However, it certainly can be! It can also be the day that you chose to seek help. Some people prefer to call the day that they completed a treatment program a “sober birthday” because they feel that this is when they began their new lives. It comes down to choosing the day that stands out in your mind as being “Day 1” for you.
Planning a Sober Celebration
Many people like to celebrate sober milestones by throwing parties. For some, this is the first time they are entering into a “party” atmosphere as a sober person. The fact that you will be able to plan and control how your party operates may help you feel more assured about participating in this situation for the first time. Let’s take a look at some essential tips for creating a smooth, low-stress celebration that will allow you to celebrate your achievement.
Be Choosy About Your Guest List
A guest list for a sober celebration should be comprised of friends, family and others who have supported and helped you along your journey. This isn’t necessarily a time to invite people who have been critical of your decision to pursue sobriety. It’s crucial to avoid inviting anyone who might not respect the rules and boundaries you’ve put up as far as substances at your party.
Choosing a More Low-Key, Intimate Option
You may not be in a place where you’re quite ready to throw a party. Many other options will still allow you to mark a critical sober milestone in a meaningful way. Many people find that there is something exceptional about connecting with nature when marking significant sober milestones. Fresh air can be a great reminder of freedom and renewal! Here’s a look at some ways to treat yourself when looking for a low-key sober celebration:
- Plan a hike with friends.
- Visit a local museum, amusement park or botanical garden.
- Plan a solo spa day.
- Go bowling.
- See a movie.
- See a live show.
- Paint, craft or make jewelry to commemorate your milestone.
- Try a new activity like rollerblading, kayaking, scuba diving or skydiving.
Of course, it’s essential to make sure that you won’t be placed in an uncomfortable spot if you decide to attend venues that may serve alcohol or put you back in familiar settings from before your sober days. Knowledge of your boundaries is essential when choosing a setting for your celebration. In addition, having supportive people with you while you celebrate can be beneficial!
Make No Apologies
The big thing to remember is that this is your day to celebrate a major success! You may feel the pull to apologize to your guests for the lack of alcohol. Unfortunately, continually discussing the lack of alcohol can put the focus back on alcohol when it should be on your milestone! Resist the feeling that you need to apologize or explain why you aren’t providing alcoholic beverages at your celebration. The big takeaway is that it’s okay to celebrate milestones your way! Of course, it’s important to make sure you’re creating a safe, supportive environment that helps you to continue to thrive.