How Families Can Encourage Their Loved Ones To Get Substance-Abuse Treatment January 29, 2018 Few things are more painful than seeing someone you care for making him\/herself seriously ill with chemical addiction\u2014and insisting, \u201cIt\u2019s not that bad, I can handle it, and it\u2019s really your fault for all the stress you put on me!\u201d Sooner or later, everyone comes face to face with the reality that sometimes you just can\u2019t force someone to do what you know is best for them. Perhaps not even if they\u2019re legally under your custody. Probably not if all you can think of to advise is \u201cJust stop drinking!!!\u201d If what you\u2019re advising them to do is get professional help, the advice has a better chance of working out\u2014if taken. But the decision to take it is still ultimately theirs, and constantly pushing the suggestion may simply encourage them to retreat further into their addiction. Fortunately, your other options aren\u2019t limited to watching helplessly. Here are some proven methods for encouraging substance abusers to seek help of their own free will. Don\u2019t protect them from the consequences. If they throw up in their bedroom, leave the mess for them to clean up. If they spend all available money on drugs, keep your own money where they can\u2019t get at it, and let them worry about dealing with their creditors. Whenever you help them avoid the worst, you\u2019re reinforcing their own argument that things aren\u2019t that bad. Talk to a counselor yourself. It\u2019s easy to blame the person with the most obvious problem, but chances are you\u2019re also reinforcing the status quo\u2014in ways and for reasons you can\u2019t see. Anyone who shares a household with a substance abuser can benefit from professional help. Research treatment options that might meet your loved one\u2019s needs \u2014not to shove the options in their face, but so you\u2019ll have suggestions ready when the person is face to face with the folly of continuing as is. You don\u2019t have to wait for them to hit bottom completely; every addict thinks frequently, \u201cI want better than this.\u201d But if no one can offer any immediate practical suggestions for finding something better, chances are the addict will have forgotten it and be right back at the bottle by the time the next trigger hits. As far as possible, involve the rest of the household in all the above. The fewer enablers and the more informed thinkers exercising influence on the addict, the better\u2014and even small children, guided by counseling, can learn ways to help the situation.